[sanji]

Je pense que cet article pourrait tout aussi bien rentrer dans la categorie "humour". En tout cas, il m'a beaucoup fait rire, a ne pas prendre au premier degre!

sanji

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Source : Mainichi Interactive Daily News
http://mdn.mainichi.co.jp/waiwai/0406/0610junebrides.html

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Marriage-minded maidens demand more, and more, and more!

By Ryann Connell
Staff Writer
June 10, 2004


It's wedding season in Japan now, but marriage matchmakers are finding there aren't too many happy June brides around this year, according to Shukan Taishu (6/21).

"We've had women who won't marry unless we can find them a doctor. I could understand if the client was a graduate of some top university and was a real looker, but most of the time the most stubborn ones are the types who I sort of look at and think, 'Hey, you're getting a bit ahead of yourself here, kiddo,'" Keiko Omi, a counselor at the Belle matchmaking service in Tokyo, tells Shukan Taishu.

Recent surveys have showed there are 300,000 more Japanese men of marriageable age than their female counterparts, but that most unmarried women are uninterested in tying the knot. Many of those who do want to wed, though, are pricing themselves out of the market. A 32-year-old Tokyo woman is a case in point.

"She works for an electronics company that everybody's heard of. She's pretty plain. But the conditions she demanded of her marriage partner were absolutely outrageous," a Tokyo matchmaking operation boss says, going through the list of 18 items the woman specified as necessary in her ideal husband. Her demands, all typed out neatly on A-4 paper, went through the ordinary requirements of hefty income, good looks and a decent academic record and also included specific requirements for property ownership, health condition and how much he could expect to inherit.

"When I read her demands, I told her there's nobody in the country who'd meet EVERY requirement she'd insisted on. She told me that was OK and then said she'd pay an extra 1 million yen if I could find somebody who met 'at least two or three' of her conditions," the operator says. "She was an extreme case, but there are women out there looking for too much. Unlike the past, where marriage was everything, many women don't feel the need to get married anymore."

Unemployment, which is hurting women especially hard, is also changing marriage mores.

"This 21-year-old woman due to graduate from university came to me looking for a marriage partner. I was really surprised to learn the views some women today have of the institution of marriage," a matchmaker in Yokohama tells Shukan Taishu. "She told me she'd looked really hard for a job, but couldn't find anything. Then she said her father had been transferred to Osaka and her mother was going with him so she'd have to find a place of her own, but was scared of trying to pay the rent. She wanted to get married so she wouldn't have to worry about that. She added that she was currently seeing a number of men, but that none of them would be interested in marrying. She said she didn't mind marrying somebody up to about 35, as long as he owned his own apartment."

Despite a reputation for being at least ambivalent toward foreigners, Chinese wives are finding fans in the Land of the Rising Sun.

"Farm girls from the poor northern part of the country are really humble. The only thing they ask of prospective husbands is that they be home-oriented and, at the very most, be prepared to be kind to her parents and his own," a broker of international marriages tells Shukan Taishu. "Chinese women would make much better wives than their contemporary Japanese counterparts."

With Japan's divorce rate skyrocketing, setting up re-marriages are also a flourishing part of the matchmaking industry. Those seeking to enter a multiple marriage are less likely to be worried about a prospective partner's background and more worried about bedroom etiquette.

"We had this 41-year-old woman who came to us and said she didn't care about the guy's age or income, but he'd have to be able to satisfy her sexually. Her ex-husband had only been able to perform about once a week and she wasn't happy with that," a spokesman for a company specializing in matching the middle-aged tells Shukan Taishu. "When I asked her how often she'd need to have relations, she went bright red and then answered, in a tiny voice, 'Every night.' But then she added, 'And he's gotta be hung. I can't be with small guys. I need one that's at least big enough to wrap both hands around it.' We checked out all the men registered with us. Some of them felt up to once a week, but most flinched when we told them they'd need to perform every night."

[zooglub]

je ne pense pas que ce probleme ne soit que japonais, il est notoire que les femmes cadre francaise ayant atteind la trentaine cherche deseperemment un mari entrant a peu pres dans le cadre de ce que cet article cite.
un cadre masculin qui a 40 ans et un physique potable a presque un harem de fille "facile" a sa disposition. Que ceux qui sont alle au vip ou aux soirees seven to one disent le contraire.

enfin quoiqu'il en soit cet article etait tres simpa.

[XPHTH]

Je suis profondément choqué par cet article!

(non je rigole)

Enfin ça fout la frousse! Apparemment l'infidelité au Japon, c'est monnaie courante. Et ce n'est pas "pareil partout", j'entends pas pareil dans tous les pays.

Il suffit de voir comme il est facile de... non on ne va pas rentrer dans ce débat.

En tout cas les mecs, ayez toujours une capote sur vous, et les filles, bon courage avec ces messieurs !


XPHTH le fou
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1. 第１期（27代武丁の時代）　　　　　　　　　甲骨の57％
2. 第２期（28代祖庚・29代祖甲兄弟の時代）　　11％

[gyp]

J'aimerai relancer ce post parce qu'en ce moment j'entends souvent parler de marriage au Japon et ca me fait a chaque fois totalement delirer.

Je pense que cet article n'est pas du tout a prendre au second degre. Beaucoup de femmes japonaises sont comme ca. A l'appui ceci :

Je travaille a Shiodome et quand je dis que je travaille a Shiodome on me repond tout de suite "Ah oui a cote de Dansu". Bon moi j'avais jamais entendu parler de Dansu mais il parait que c'est un boite de pub ou de marketting. Alors je me suis dit qu'ils devaient avoir un super bel immeuble et que c'est pour ca que tout le monde connait. Mais pas du tout, tous les immeubles ici se ressemblent comme deux goutes d'eau.

Dernierement je me prommenais a cote du bureau avec qqn qui ne connaissait pas le quartier et j'ai propose d'aller manger dans une autre tour, alors j'ai eu le droit a "La tour Dansu !!" Alors la j'ai craque et j'ai demande pourquoi toutes les filles savaient que Dansu etait a Shiodome.

Reponse... Dansu est la boite japonaise qui verse les plus gros salaires et "toutes les filles veulent se marrier avec un employe de Dansu"
No comment (bon j'imagine que les eternels beats du Japon vont donner un contre exemple et penseront par la contredire le fait mais bon...)

Juste une precision : ce qui est choquant n'est pas le fait de vouloir se marrier avec un homme riche (c'est tres commun partout dans le monde) mais de vouloir un homme dont la simple evocation de l'entreprise laisse a penser qu'il gagne un gros salaire (un bon poste dans une autre boite rapportera bien plus qu'un mauvais poste chez Dansu mais il aura moins de prestige).

Dernierement une amie qui doit se marrier m'a rabbache les oreilles sur le fait que l'entreprise de son fiance payait mieux que les autres, tout s'eclaire.

Si vous pouvez mettre la main sur le Time de cette semaine lisez l'article sur l'evolution de la societe japonaise. Je resume : elle passe d'un systeme "socialiste" (pour caricaturer) ou les differences de salaires etaient minimes et fonction de l'anciennete (et, il faut le dire, de l'habilete a lever le coude a l'izakaya) a un systeme ou les salaires sont fonction de la performances au grand dame des tenants de la vielle economie. Un des impacts pricipaux est la multiplication des conseils pour paraitre riche (restaurants a frequenter, vetements a porter...) Disons donc bienvenu aux Japonais dans le monde moderne.

[Gael]

[lightman]